wake on access - upnp support (v2)

This pr adds support for waking upnp-servers and replaces PR https://github.com/xbmc/xbmc/pull/4104

ref this post and onwards : http://forum.xbmc.org/showthread.php?tid=124340&pid=1611088#pid1611088
and : http://trac.xbmc.org/ticket/14880

Should work fine also for upnp-servers hosted on machines with DHCP assigned ipaddresses since alive-test ('ping') now is done by probing availability of the upnp-server rather than actual ping
Yeah this particular PR may not be the right place to do any kind of larger refactoring, I'm just saying that this pattern is prevalent in other parts of the XBMC code too and IMO its use should be minimized.