Dont force ../.deps in third-party/CMakeLists.txt

- third-party is built under .deps by default instead of using its own
  ${CMAKE_BINARY_DIR}, move this default setting out of the cmake
  settings and into the Makefile.
- As a consequence the workflow of building third-party using CMake
  should feel more natural, avoid the additional folder or setting
  DEPS_DIR from the command line.
- This commit does not change the default behaviour when calling the
  Makefile wrapper.