Added `_shards` header to all write responses.

The header indicates to how many shard copies (primary and replicas shards) a write was supposed to go to, to how many shard copies to write succeeded and potentially captures shard failures if writing into a replica shard fails.

For async writes it also includes the number of shards a write is still pending.
do we need to do this given the fact that in status() we scan for primaries any way? maybe we can just remove the primary failure list?