Fixes related to mutl-domain deployments

Now the external-domain-checker returns a list of local domains that can be reused between calls of ChannelManager.isLocalDomain(), ChannelManager.isLocalJid() or ChannelManager.isLocalNode(). 
It drastically improves the perfomance of disco#items, purging remote cache, etc,... and allows for a selective query of local nodes.

Since HSQLDB is not fully compliant with postgres, I had to Mockito.spy the SQL connection object in the tests in order to replace **~** with **regexp_matches**.
The logic was all moved to the SQL query: https://github.com/buddycloud/buddycloud-server-java/pull/238/files#diff-cb48ed34e5cccf7d3d790f6eb7ecffeeR238