std: Remove implicit shrinking from hash_map.

Implements fn shrink_to_fit for HashMap.
std: Change the behavior of `reserve` for HashMap.

HashMap's `reserve` method now takes as an argument the *extra* space
to reserve.

[breaking-change]
auto merge of #18770 : pczarn/rust/hash_map-explicit-shrinking, r=Gankro

Part of enforcing capacity-related conventions, for #18424, the collections reform.

Implements `fn shrink_to_fit` for HashMap.
The `reserve` method now takes as an argument the *extra* space to reserve.