[SPARK-3453] Netty-based BlockTransferService, extracted from Spark core

This PR encapsulates #2330, which is itself a continuation of #2240. The first goal of this PR is to provide an alternate, simpler implementation of the ConnectionManager which is based on Netty.

In addition to this goal, however, we want to resolve [SPARK-3796](https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/SPARK-3796), which calls for a standalone shuffle service which can be integrated into the YARN NodeManager, Standalone Worker, or on its own. This PR makes the first step in this direction by ensuring that the actual Netty service is as small as possible and extracted from Spark core. Given this, we should be able to construct this standalone jar which can be included in other JVMs without incurring significant dependency or runtime issues. The actual work to ensure that such a standalone shuffle service would work in Spark will be left for a future PR, however.

In order to minimize dependencies and allow for the service to be long-running (possibly much longer-running than Spark, and possibly having to support multiple version of Spark simultaneously), the entire service has been ported to Java, where we have full control over the binary compatibility of the components and do not depend on the Scala runtime or version.

These issues: have been addressed by folding in #2330:

SPARK-3453: Refactor Netty module to use BlockTransferService interface
SPARK-3018: Release all buffers upon task completion/failure
SPARK-3002: Create a connection pool and reuse clients across different threads
SPARK-3017: Integration tests and unit tests for connection failures
SPARK-3049: Make sure client doesn't block when server/connection has error(s)
SPARK-3502: SO_RCVBUF and SO_SNDBUF should be bootstrap childOption, not option
SPARK-3503: Disable thread local cache in PooledByteBufAllocator

TODO before mergeable:
- [x] Implement uploadBlock()
- [x] Unit tests for RPC side of code
- [x] Performance testing (see comments [here](https://github.com/apache/spark/pull/2753#issuecomment-59475022))
- [x] Turn OFF by default (currently on for unit testing)

Author: Reynold Xin <rxin@apache.org>
Author: Aaron Davidson <aaron@databricks.com>
Author: cocoatomo <cocoatomo77@gmail.com>
Author: Patrick Wendell <pwendell@gmail.com>
Author: Prashant Sharma <prashant.s@imaginea.com>
Author: Davies Liu <davies.liu@gmail.com>
Author: Anand Avati <avati@redhat.com>

Closes #2753 from aarondav/netty and squashes the following commits:

cadfd28 [Aaron Davidson] Turn netty off by default
d7be11b [Aaron Davidson] Turn netty on by default
4a204b8 [Aaron Davidson] Fail block fetches if client connection fails
2b0d1c0 [Aaron Davidson] 100ch
0c5bca2 [Aaron Davidson] Merge branch 'master' of https://github.com/apache/spark into netty
14e37f7 [Aaron Davidson] Address Reynold's comments
8dfcceb [Aaron Davidson] Merge branch 'master' of https://github.com/apache/spark into netty
322dfc1 [Aaron Davidson] Address Reynold's comments, including major rename
e5675a4 [Aaron Davidson] Fail outstanding RPCs as well
ccd4959 [Aaron Davidson] Don't throw exception if client immediately fails
9da0bc1 [Aaron Davidson] Add RPC unit tests
d236dfd [Aaron Davidson] Remove no-op serializer :)
7b7a26c [Aaron Davidson] Fix Nio compile issue
dd420fd [Aaron Davidson] Merge branch 'master' of https://github.com/apache/spark into netty-test
939f276 [Aaron Davidson] Attempt to make comm. bidirectional
aa58f67 [cocoatomo] [SPARK-3909][PySpark][Doc] A corrupted format in Sphinx documents and building warnings
8dc1ded [cocoatomo] [SPARK-3867][PySpark] ./python/run-tests failed when it run with Python 2.6 and unittest2 is not installed
5b5dbe6 [Prashant Sharma] [SPARK-2924] Required by scala 2.11, only one fun/ctor amongst overriden alternatives, can have default argument(s).
2c5d9dc [Patrick Wendell] HOTFIX: Fix build issue with Akka 2.3.4 upgrade.
020691e [Davies Liu] [SPARK-3886] [PySpark] use AutoBatchedSerializer by default
ae4083a [Anand Avati] [SPARK-2805] Upgrade Akka to 2.3.4
29c6dcf [Aaron Davidson] [SPARK-3453] Netty-based BlockTransferService, extracted from Spark core
f7e7568 [Reynold Xin] Fixed spark.shuffle.io.receiveBuffer setting.
5d98ce3 [Reynold Xin] Flip buffer.
f6c220d [Reynold Xin] Merge with latest master.
407e59a [Reynold Xin] Fix style violation.
a0518c7 [Reynold Xin] Implemented block uploads.
4b18db2 [Reynold Xin] Copy the buffer in fetchBlockSync.
bec4ea2 [Reynold Xin] Removed OIO and added num threads settings.
1bdd7ee [Reynold Xin] Fixed tests.
d68f328 [Reynold Xin] Logging close() in case close() fails.
f63fb4c [Reynold Xin] Add more debug message.
6afc435 [Reynold Xin] Added logging.
c066309 [Reynold Xin] Implement java.io.Closeable interface.
519d64d [Reynold Xin] Mark private package visibility and MimaExcludes.
f0a16e9 [Reynold Xin] Fixed test hanging.
14323a5 [Reynold Xin] Removed BlockManager.getLocalShuffleFromDisk.
b2f3281 [Reynold Xin] Added connection pooling.
d23ed7b [Reynold Xin] Incorporated feedback from Norman: - use same pool for boss and worker - remove ioratio - disable caching of byte buf allocator - childoption sendbuf/receivebuf - fire exception through pipeline
9e0cb87 [Reynold Xin] Fixed BlockClientHandlerSuite
5cd33d7 [Reynold Xin] Fixed style violation.
cb589ec [Reynold Xin] Added more test cases covering cleanup when fault happens in ShuffleBlockFetcherIteratorSuite
1be4e8e [Reynold Xin] Shorten NioManagedBuffer and NettyManagedBuffer class names.
108c9ed [Reynold Xin] Forgot to add TestSerializer to the commit list.
b5c8d1f [Reynold Xin] Fixed ShuffleBlockFetcherIteratorSuite.
064747b [Reynold Xin] Reference count buffers and clean them up properly.
2b44cf1 [Reynold Xin] Added more documentation.
1760d32 [Reynold Xin] Use Epoll.isAvailable in BlockServer as well.
165eab1 [Reynold Xin] [SPARK-3453] Refactor Netty module to use BlockTransferService.