[SPARK-3466] Limit size of results that a driver collects for each action

Right now, operations like collect() and take() can crash the driver with an OOM if they bring back too many data.

This PR will introduce spark.driver.maxResultSize, after setting it, the driver will abort a job if its result is bigger than it.

By default, it's 1g (for backward compatibility for most the cases).

In local mode, the driver and executor share the same JVM, the default setting can not protect JVM from OOM.

cc @mateiz 
This logging happens on executor, is not user-faced directly in cluster mode.

The logging in driver is more important, one error logging and a message for abort(), I will improve those twos, but keep this one simple.