Improve shm_mq portability around MAXIMUM_ALIGNOF and sizeof(Size).

Revise the original decision to expose a uint64-based interface and
use Size everywhere possible.  Avoid assuming that MAXIMUM_ALIGNOF is
8, or making any assumption about the relationship between that value
and sizeof(Size).  If MAXIMUM_ALIGNOF is bigger, we'll now insert
padding after the length word; if it's smaller, we are now prepared
to read and write the length word in chunks.

Per discussion with Tom Lane.