[replace-across-files] Unify Find Bars across FindReplace/FindInFiles

This gets rid of a lot of the redundant find bar code across single-file and multi-file find. There are still a few bits in FindInFiles that directly monkeypatch into the FindBar's ModalBar (see the TODOs in FindInFiles), but I think we can clean that up later if we want.

The first two commits are fairly semantic, and it's probably worth looking at them individually (the big one is the second one) - I added some comments in the individual commits, but if you want I can move them to the main PR diffs.

Note that this PR is a PR into the `nj/replace-across-files` branch, so this can be merged when it's reviewed (it'll just go into that long-running branch).
On your first note, it would probably be even better to just break out the error display from here altogether - that's what we do in Find in Files (where the similar functionality happens in SearchModel and doesn't know about the UI). I'll look at cleaning it up.

I'll also look at cleaning up the confusion around the `query` members.