rados.py: fix misnamed 'wait_*' routines, add true wait/wait-with-cb

Also modify aio_read test for wait: write an object, take its active set
down, try to aio_read; verify read doesn't complete until active set is
allowed back up

Fixes: #10104
Signed-off-by: Dan Mick <dan.mick@redhat.com>
(shouldn't be polling; should be blocked on lock until the cb actually fires.  but it would be nice to test both IMO; what do you think?)