ISPN-4867 Single event marshaller support more clearly defined in API

* Based on Dan's feedback, Hot Rod server API made it look as if you
could pass a per-factory marshaller but that's not really the case.
A single event marshaller is currently supported.
ISPN-4675 Missing server configuration for remote executor thread pool

Add server configuration for the remote command executor and the total order executor.
Fix LargeClusterStressTest to create clustered caches and check the data
perf testing hacks