[SPARK-3466] Limit size of results that a driver collects for each action

Right now, operations like collect() and take() can crash the driver with an OOM if they bring back too many data.

This PR will introduce spark.driver.maxResultSize, after setting it, the driver will abort a job if its result is bigger than it.

By default, it's 1g (for backward compatibility for most the cases).

In local mode, the driver and executor share the same JVM, the default setting can not protect JVM from OOM.

cc @mateiz 
Can you just abort the task set here, rather than throwing an exception? I think it would make the code easier to read. Also, exceptions have gotten us into trouble before where we don't catch them properly, especially when we change the code late.