=act #3623 unsubscribe when actors terminate, instead of `isTerminated`

* Moved to removing actors proactively when they are terminated instead of
  checking `isTerminated` during publish.
* Subscribers which have registered before initializing the unsubscriber
  will be aggregated in a Seq until one is registered and then it will
  take responsibility of unregistering them on termination.
* Initialization of the unsubscriber can only be run once - attempting
  to initialize the event stream with another unsubscriber will fail,
  and init will return false.
* Assumed having an init (mutable) method on the `EventBus` is fine, as
  it has such methods already and @patriknw's comment in the task for
  this.

Review by @rkuhn