Refactor family acl

This replaces add/remove attributes acl by a single edit attributes acl that also covers editing the requirements

| Q                    | A
| -------------------- | ---
| Bug fix?             | Y
| New feature?         | N
| BC breaks?           | Y
| CI currently passes? | Y
| Tests pass?          | Y
| Scenarios pass?      | running
| Checkstyle issues?*  | N
| PMD issues?**        | N
| Changelog updated?  | Y
| Fixed tickets        | PIM-3042, PIM-3105
| Doc PR               | ~