index-helper: new daemon for caching index and related stuff

Instead of reading the index from disk and worrying about disk
corruption, the index is cached in memory (memory bit-flips happen
too, but hopefully less often). The result is faster read.

The biggest gain is not having to verify the trailing SHA-1, which
takes lots of time especially on large index files. But this also
opens doors for further optimiztions:

 - we could create an in-memory format that's essentially the memory
   dump of the index to eliminate most of parsing/allocation
   overhead. The mmap'd memory can be used straight away.

 - we could cache non-index info such as name hash

The shared memory's name folows the template "git-<object>-<SHA1>"
where <SHA1> is the trailing SHA-1 of the index file. <object> is
"index" for cached index files (and may be "name-hash" for name-hash
cache). If such shared memory exists, it contains the same index
content as on disk. The content is already validated by the daemon and
git won't validate it again (except comparing the trailing SHA-1s).

Git can poke the daemon to tell it to refresh the index cache, or to
keep it alive some more minutes via UNIX signals. It can't give any
real index data directly to the daemon. Real data goes to disk first,
then the daemon reads and verifies it from there.

$GIT_DIR/index-helper.pid contains a reference to daemon process (and
it's pid on *nix). The file's mtime is updated every time it's accessed
(or should be updated often enough). Old index-helper.pid is considered
stale and ignored.

index-helper requires POSIX realtime extension. POSIX shm interface
however is abstracted away so that Windows support can be added later.

On webkit.git with index format v2, duplicating 8 times to 1.4m
entries and 200MB in size:

(vanilla)      0.986986364 s: read_index_from .git/index
(index-helper) 0.267850279 s: read_index_from .git/index

Interestingly with index v4, we get less out of index-helper. It makes
sense as v4 requires more processing after loading the index:

(vanilla)      0.722496666 s: read_index_from .git/index
(index-helper) 0.302741500 s: read_index_from .git/index
trace.c: add GIT_TRACE_INDEX_STATS for index  statistics
index-helper: add --strict

There's are "holes" in the index-helper approach because the shared
memory is not verified again by git. If $USER is compromised, shared
memory could be modified. But then they can already modify
$GIT_DIR/index. A more realistic risk is some bugs in index-helper
produce corrupt shared memory. --strict is added to avoid that

Strictly speaking there's still a very small gap where corrupt shared
memory could still be read by git: after we write the trailing SHA-1 in
the shared memory (thus signaling "this shm is ready") and before
verify_shm() detects an error.
daemonize(): set a flag before exiting the main process

This allows signal handlers and atexit functions to realize this
situation and not clean up.
index-helper: add --detach
index-helper: add Windows support

Windows supports shared memory, but the semantics is a bit different
than POSIX shm. The most noticeable thing is there's no way to get the
shared memory's size by the reader, and wrapping fstat to do that
would be hell. So the shm size is added near the end, hidden away from
shm users (storing it in headers would cause more problems with munmap,
storing it as a separate shm is even worse).

PostMessage is used instead of UNIX signals for
notification. Lightweight (at least code-wise) on the client side.
perf tracing