Make the event loop expose a Windows event interface.

This allows event loop users to specify Win32 events to wait on,
thus making the event loop more flexible.
Use a Windows event to stop tinc when running as a service.

Currently, when the tinc service handler callback (which runs in a
separate thread) receives a service shutdown request, it calls
event_exit() to request the event loop to exit.

This approach has a few issues:

 - The event loop will only notice the exit request when the next event
   fires. This slows down tinc service shutdown. In some extreme cases
   (DeviceStandby enabled, long PingTimeout and no connections),
   shutdown can take ages.

 - Strictly speaking, because of the absence of memory barriers, there
   is no guarantee that the event loop will even notice an exit request
   coming from another thread. I suppose marking the "running" variable
   as "volatile" is supposed to alleviate that, but it's unclear whether
   that provides any guarantees with modern systems and compilers.

This commit fixes the issue by leveraging the new event loop Windows
interface, using a custom Windows event that is manually set when
shutdown is requested.
Remove the TAP-Win32 reader thread.

tinc is using a separate thread to read from the TAP device on Windows.
The rationale was that the notification mechanism for packets arriving
on the virtual network device is based on Win32 events, and the event
loop did not support listening to these events.

Thanks to recent improvements, this event loop limitation has been
lifted. Therefore we can get rid of the separate thread and simply add
the Win32 "incoming packet" event to the event loop, just like a socket.
The result is cleaner code that's easier to reason about.