SPDY: fix SpdySessionHandler::updateSendWindowSize

In Netty 3, downstream writes of SPDY data frames and upstream reads of
SPDY window udpate frames occur on different threads.

When receiving a window update frame, we synchronize on a java object
(SpdySessionHandler::flowControlLock) while sending any pending writes
that are now able to complete.

When writing a data frame, we check the send window size to see if we
are allowed to write it to the socket, or if we have to enqueue it as a
pending write. To prevent races with the window update frame, this is
also synchronized on the same SpdySessionHandler::flowControlLock.

In Netty 4, upstream and downstream operations on any given channel now
occur on the same thread. Since java locks are re-entrant, this now
allows downstream writes to occur while processing window update frames.

In particular, when we receive a window update frame that unblocks a
pending write, this write completes which triggers an event notification
on the response, which in turn triggers a write of a data frame. Since
this is on the same thread it re-enters the lock and modifies the send
window. When the write completes, we continue processing pending writes
without knowledge that the window size has been decremented.