net: make Socket.connect() consistently asynchronous

`Socket.prototype.connect()` follows a synchronous code path in some cases and an asynchronous one in others. This commit makes it consistently asynchronous. This commit also removes hard coded IPv4 addresses, and throws on bad inputs immediately, instead of potentially after an asynchronous operation. Closes #8140

EDIT: I might have worded this slightly wrong. The connection is made asynchronously. I was referring to the fact that one current code path involved a DNS lookup, while the other two completed synchronously.
Might as well follow the pattern and include what the request port was