ISPN-4520 JdbcBinaryStoreTest.testLoadAndStoreWithLifespanAndIdle random failures

* Increased the timeout to avoid false positives
ISPN-4478 ServerFailureRetrySingleOwnerTest should remove listener

* Before, the error inducing listener was not being removed, and that
was not appearing as a result that each test was creating a new bunch
of cache managers. Now, clean up is done after the test class has
finished and the listeners are correctly removed.
ISPN-4499 Prevent shadowing user-defined jgroups configuration file
ISPN-4504 Topology id is not properly set on ClusteredGetCommands

ClusteredGetCommand should NOT be topology-aware
ISPN-4503 Commands with topology id 0 are not properly ignored on joiners
ISPN-2522 The StateTransferCacheLoaderFunctionalTest (StateTransferFunctionTest) tests fail periodically

* Disable synchronizations, so that commit failures are not ignored.
* Pause between writes so that the writing thread doesn't hog all
  the CPU before the 2nd node joins.
* Fail-fast in StateTransferLargeObjectTest