- reverse course in #3061 so that we instead no longer set None in the attribute
when we do a get; we return the None as always but we leave the dict blank
and the loader callable still in place.  The case for this implicit get on a pending object is not
super common and there really should be no change in state at all when this
operation proceeds.   This change is more dramatic as it reverses
a behavior SQLA has had since the first release.
fixes #3061