rgw: don't try to wait for pending if list is empty

Fixes: #8846
Backport: firefly, dumpling

This was broken at ea68b9372319fd0bab40856db26528d36359102e. We ended
up calling wait_pending_front() when pending list was empty.
This commit also moves the need_to_wait check to a different place,
where we actually throttle (and not just drain completed IOs).

Reported-by: Sylvain Munaut <s.munaut@whatever-company.com>
Signed-off-by: Yehuda Sadeh <yehuda@inktank.com>
(cherry picked from commit f9f2417d7db01ecf2425039539997901615816a9)