ha ha doesn't work yet.  see extended desc

so I think a better way to do this would be to first randomize the list and the pop item after item off, rather than trying to make friendChoice find something random within the list every time.  georgia also suggests "find," but I still think that the issue there would be to.... oh I could have it tell me the position once I FIND it and then del at that position.

still I think it would be easier to randomize the list and pop off the last item one by one.

committed because it's still a bunch of lines, man