[x86] Make the new vector shuffle lowering lower blends as VSELECT
nodes, and rely exclusively on its logic. This removes a ton of
duplication from the blend lowering and centralizes it in one place.

One downside is that it requires a bunch of hacks to make this work with
the current legalization framework. We have to manually speculate one
aspect of legalizing VSELECT nodes to get everything to work nicely
because the existing legalization framework isn't *actually* bottom-up.

The other grossness is that we somewhat duplicate the analysis of
constant blends. I'm on the fence here. If reviewers thing this would
look better with VSELECT when it has constant operands dumping over tho
VECTOR_SHUFFLE, we could go that way. But it would be a substantial
change because currently all of the actual blend instructions are
matched via patterns in the TD files based around VSELECT nodes (despite
them not being perfect fits for that). Suggestions welcome, but at least
this removes the rampant duplication in the backend.