[SPARK-3046] use executor's class loader as the default serializer classloader

The serializer is not always used in an executor thread (e.g. connection manager, broadcast), in which case the classloader might not have the user jar set, leading to corruption in deserialization.

https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/SPARK-3046

https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/SPARK-2878