Add support for __no_BUILD__ constructor argument

When Moo or Moose (or other frameworks) subclass a Class::Tiny class,
they want to be able to delegate construction but control the BUILD
calls themselves.  The "__no_BUILD__" argument is an agreed convention
that indicates that the constructor must not run BUILD, as the caller
is taking responsibility for doing so later.
Change constructor behavior: permissive and non-polluting

This is a backwards-breaking change.

First, unknown constructor arguments are now ignored rather than being
fatal.  This makes interoperation with other object systems much easier.
For example, Moo or Moose can now subclass Class::Tiny classes with
less work.

Second, this means that all attributes, including custom ones, must
be declared.  Only declared attributes are populated into the new
object.

Third, as a side-benefit of declaration, attributes with custom
accessors can have defaults and the custom accessor merely needs to use
the introspection API to retrieve and use it.
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