Separating highlight vs. hover style on node. fixes #377

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fixes #377
I like the zoom on highlight, it effectively highlights the "highlight" vs. "hover" state.  However, I'm still not sure if having a funky 4 directional shadow is the best way to separate the one box from another.  

I'm open to the ideas.