ISPN-4979 CacheStatusResponse map uses too much memory

* Added in way to cache various instances in the serialization context
* Reuse equal consistent hashes and cache join info
Replace sfl4j-jdk14 dependency with sfl4j-log4j12 so that jboss logging
writes to log4j in the cdi module (and dependents).

Add more debugging around cache listeners. It seems Class.getMethods()
sometimes returns synthetic methods created by overriding a generic method.