Optimize creation and removal of temporary "user holds" placed on
snapshots by a zfs send, by ensuring all the required holds and
releases are done in a single dsl_sync_task.

Creation now collates the required holds during a dry run and
then uses a single lzc_hold call via zfs_hold_nvl instead of
processing each snapshot in turn.

Deferred (on exit) cleanup by the kernel is also now done in
dsl_sync_task by reusing dsl_dataset_user_release_tmp.

lzc_hold now ignores failed holds for non-existent snapshots.

On a test with 11 volumes in a tree each with 8 snapshots on a
single HDD zpool this reduces the time required to perform a full
send from 20 seconds to under 0.8 seconds.

For reference eliminating the hold entirely reduces this 0.15
seconds.

While I'm here:
* Remove some unused structure
* Ensure that enoent_ok is processed by zfs_hold consistently
* Fix nvlist_t leak in zfs_release_one