fixing "auto boot" pref support

this wasn't properly working before, and also
leaving processes running when autoboot=false.
now it is working perfectly!
added a little spacing to form layout
put close button clearly on chat menu
disabled failed SSL cert notifications

this is handled by MemorizingTrustManager
initAccount() on resume to address empty contact list

it seems like we need to reinit account on resume each
time we open the activity, to refrefh contact list data
improvements to address SQL injections from Intent data
updated rendering of account/provider list

now shows whether account is going through Orbot/Tor or not
and a few other small rendering improvements