new api again... put mr in msk_data_t as it's always needed at the same time
fix wrong cond being used
add a distrinction between listening trans and accepted children in trans->server with MSK_SERVER_CHILD (-1), check that data->mr is not null before dereferencing it, rename some old pdata to data to follow convention of pdata being msk_data_t **
fix tests (build with "make check") to comply with new API
change default value for worker_pool to not using pool
disable rmitm properly
remove unused bench_send and make test programs build by default
Add a valgrind support switch at compile time - I don't get why the ones in rdmacm/ibverbs aren't enough though...
make closing error logs debug logs as they should be
add a destroy_on_disconnect flag