Don't set a default search path; use CMake's default

If we set a default search path ourself, then this will be used if we
specify a SuiteSparse_ROOT with error! Instead, we should just leave
our SuiteSparse_SEARCH_PATH variable empty and then let CMake fill in
its defaults. If there is a directory specified on the other hand
(indicating that we want exactly that location), only use that and
turn all the default paths completely off.
Allow use of uppercase version of the _ROOT var

The convention is to use uppercase names, in particular our own
./configure script uses this, so we should at least allow it here
(in addition to the old way for backward compatibility)