darwin: stop processing upcalls once rx shutdown starts

we have a chicken and egg. can't stop upcall without
killing socket; can't kill socket while rx might try to transmit on it.
cheat, and if rx is shut down, don't process things upcall receives.

FIXES 131577

Change-Id: I6b72f6e7aefb7937b768dcb9c0a83d0ee3317bfa
Reviewed-on: http://gerrit.openafs.org/8931
Reviewed-by: Chas Williams - CONTRACTOR <chas@cmf.nrl.navy.mil>
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Reviewed-by: Derrick Brashear <shadow@your-file-system.com>
rx: convert rxinit_status to atomic

we don't need to use a lock just for this; switch to atomic and use that
to trigger configuration.

Change-Id: Ia96ec308dda51d1f6d13f290a23251c66665e499
Reviewed-on: http://gerrit.openafs.org/8930
Reviewed-by: Chas Williams - CONTRACTOR <chas@cmf.nrl.navy.mil>
Tested-by: BuildBot <buildbot@rampaginggeek.com>
Reviewed-by: Derrick Brashear <shadow@your-file-system.com>