Show disconnected message during connection time

This makes it more obvious if the server drops a connection during
connection.
Decay exponential backoff when connected
Add test for sort order in the nick list.
Merge pull request #192 from tvierling/list_sort_test

Add test for sort order in the nick list.
Merge pull request #148 from dgl/connect

Connection time cleanups
add ignores for Eclipse on my personal branch