Fix an O(N^2) performance issue for sessions modifying many relations.

AtEOXact_RelationCache() scanned the entire relation cache at the end of
any transaction that created a new relation or assigned a new relfilenode.
Thus, clients such as pg_restore had an O(N^2) performance problem that
would start to be noticeable after creating 10000 or so tables.  Since
typically only a small number of relcache entries need any cleanup, we
can fix this by keeping a small list of their OIDs and doing hash_searches
for them.  We fall back to the full-table scan if the list overflows.

Ideally, the maximum list length would be set at the point where N
hash_searches would cost just less than the full-table scan.  Some quick
experimentation says that point might be around 50-100; I (tgl)
conservatively set MAX_EOXACT_LIST = 32.  For the case that we're worried
about here, which is short single-statement transactions, it's unlikely
there would ever be more than about a dozen list entries anyway; so it's
probably not worth being too tense about the value.

We could avoid the hash_searches by instead keeping the target relcache
entries linked into a list, but that would be noticeably more complicated
and bug-prone because of the need to maintain such a list in the face of
relcache entry drops.  Since a relcache entry can only need such cleanup
after a somewhat-heavyweight filesystem operation, trying to save a
hash_search per cleanup doesn't seem very useful anyway --- it's the scan
over all the not-needing-cleanup entries that we wish to avoid here.

Jeff Janes, reviewed and tweaked a bit by Tom Lane