took back the change for setting deleted wishlist items to inactive.

we decided to just delete the wishes from the database since a record of what wishes a user has had is already kept in the updates table
trying to get updates to work correctly with items
changes that will no longer display the Item comment or quantity if a user clicks on an item through their Updates Feed. That type of information is stored under their friends wish not in the generic Item. And if their friend removes their wish later, the quantity and comment will no longer be available and would throw an exception if the system tries to access that data.