fix epoll structure alignment on non-x86_64 archs

this fix is far from ideal and breaks the rule of not using
arch-specific #ifdefs, but for now we just need a solution to the
existing breakage.

the underlying problem is that the kernel folks made a very stupid
decision to make misalignment of this struct part of the kernel
API/ABI for x86_64, in order to avoid writing a few extra lines of
code to handle both 32- and 64-bit userspace on 64-bit kernels. I had
just added the packed attribute unconditionally thinking it was
harmless on 32-bit archs, but non-x86 32-bit archs have 8-byte
alignment on 64-bit types.