9P: create dispatcher threads with PTHREAD_CREATE_DETACHED since they're not joined

Signed-off-by: Dominique Martinet <dominique.martinet@cea.fr>
9P/RDMA: use a send buffer queue instead of the 1-1 matching with recv ones

This saves 32MB/client in the default config at the cost of a negligible performance hit.

Signed-off-by: Dominique Martinet <dominique.martinet@cea.fr>
9P/RDMA: fix new output buffer queue with multiple IB adapters

Signed-off-by: Dominique Martinet <dominique.martinet@cea.fr>