Avoid resetting Xmax when it's a multi with an aborted update

HeapTupleSatisfiesUpdate can very easily "forget" tuple locks while
checking the contents of a multixact and finding it contains an aborted
update, by setting the HEAP_XMAX_INVALID bit.  This would lead to
concurrent transactions not noticing any previous locks held by
transactions that might still be running, and thus being able to acquire
subsequent locks they wouldn't be normally able to acquire.

This bug was introduced in commit 1ce150b7bb; backpatch this fix to 9.3,
like that commit.

This change reverts the change to the delete-abort-savept isolation test
in 1ce150b7bb, because that behavior change was caused by this bug.

Noticed by Andres Freund while investigating a different issue reported
by Noah Misch.