libspatialite 4.1.0 libgaiagraphics, librasterlite

* Gdal: Use includes from brewed sqlite
* spatialite-tools 4.1.0
* librasterlite 1.1g
* libgaiagraphics 0.5
* Update to use new style `build.with?`

Closes #20341.

Signed-off-by: Samuel John <github@SamuelJohn.de>