ISPN-3433 Versioned L1 values don't expire

* Added tests that ensure L1 values on write an read operations are marked as being able to be expire
* Change ClusterDependentLogic class to apply the L1 lifespan when custom metadata is provided
ISPN-3389:  Account for the new lock owner for any local transactions to prevent the tx from being stale in the new owner's tx table.
ISPN-3389 Account for the new lock owner for any local transactions to prevent the tx from being stale in the new owner's tx table

* Unit test reproducing the problem
* Fix the topology check in StateProviderImpl.collectTransactionsToTransfer
* Mark the transactions received via state transfer as remote
* Other cosmetic changes in StateProviderImpl.collectTransactionsToTransfer
ISPN-3439 EHCache2InfinispanTransformerTest is failing randomly
ISPN-3459 Add support for Cache-Control http header to REST server
ISPN-3200 Allow KeyFilters to be applied to listeners and ISPN-3201 Allow listeners to be invoked only by a primary data owner

Combined into a single commit since both commits affect the same code in AbstractListenerImpl
ISPN-3456 Make the REST delete command return a 404 in case the entry does not exist
- Also add helpers to create an embedded REST server for dependent modules
ISPN-3458 Move the HotRod target migrator to the remotecachestore
- Also drop the upgrade-tools module as its become useless now
ISPN-3018 Server side support for REST Rolling Upgrades