can this be DESTROYED to match Lifecyle ?
to me TERMINATED == STOPPED but we equate it to DESTROYED in this PR.

(that is also the terminology of most cloud providers i think -- though some have a DESTROYING state as they won't report on a DESTROYED instance ... DESTROYING is perhaps better but that's minor.  FWIW CAMP also introduce a "RepresentationSkew", which is interesting and i think quite useful -- will see how well it fits everywhere but it has already proven useful in places -- idea there is that the representation of an entity may be out of synch with the entity itself (so we are destroying the representation vs the instance).)