stream_wrap: use getters, not direct field access

Hide member fields behind getters. Make the fields themselves const
in the sense that the pointer is non-assignable - the pointed to object
remains mutable.

Makes reasoning about lifecycle and mutability a little easier.
stream_wrap: add handle type checkers

Add is_named_pipe(), is_named_pipe_ipc() and is_tcp() and update the
code base to use those rather than `stream->type == UV_FOO` and
`reinterpret_cast<uv_pipe_t*>(handle)->ipc` style checks.