Annoying conversations

I like the sentiment of:

> * contribute positively and constructively to discussions
>   * we want a high signal-to-noise ratio
>   * joining an annoying conversation will cause it to escalate, but ignoring it will kill it off

but the "ignoring it" bit seems bad.  Ignoring the evvnt email would have been terrible.  Ignoring the "please talk about this silly feminist stuff elsewhere" email also would have been terrible.

Yes, I want to suggest that piling on is bad.  Yes, I want signal-to-noise.  I also want people to feel like they should speak out when stuff is wrong.  Obviously [lrug.org/team](http://lrug.org/team) will chip in, but it would be good if the rest of the community did so too and it felt less like parents disciplining unruly children.