Fix crash in error report of invalid tuple lock

My tweak of these error messages in commit c359a1b082 contained the
thinko that a query would always have rowMarks set for a query
containing a locking clause.  Not so: when declaring a cursor, for
instance, rowMarks isn't set at the point we're checking, so we'd be
dereferencing a NULL pointer.

The fix is to pass the lock strength to the function raising the error,
instead of trying to reverse-engineer it.  The result not only is more
robust, but it also seems cleaner overall.

Per report from Robert Haas.