HPCC-9189 Disable udpResendEnabled logic

Still seeing some issues even with the behaviour defaulted off, from people
that created environments while the default was still on.

It is definitely broken, so until I have a chance to work out why, disable it.
Allow it to be enabled only in debug builds (so that I can debug why it is
failing).

Signed-off-by: Richard Chapman <rchapman@hpccsystems.com>
Merge pull request #4287 from richardkchapman/resend-enabled

HPCC-9189 Disable udpResendEnabled logic

Reviewed-by: Gavin Halliday <ghalliday@hpccsystems.com>
HPCC-9190 Roxie should not reconnect to dali if restarts while lockDali

If Roxie has been manually disconnected frmo dali, it needs to stay that way
if if it restarts after a core.

Signed-off-by: Richard Chapman <rchapman@hpccsystems.com>
Merge pull request #4297 from richardkchapman/roxie-lockdali

HPCC-9190 Roxie should not reconnect to dali if restarts while lockDali

Reviewed-by: Gavin Halliday <ghalliday@hpccsystems.com>
Merge remote-tracking branch 'origin/candidate-3.10.8' into candidate-3.10.x

Signed-off-by: Richard Chapman <rchapman@hpccsystems.com>