Tweak FOR UPDATE/SHARE error message wording (again)

In commit 0ac5ad5134 I changed some error messages from "FOR
UPDATE/SHARE" to a rather long gobbledygook which nobody liked.  Then,
in commit cb9b66d31 I changed them again, but the alternative chosen
there was deemed suboptimal by Peter Eisentraut, who in message
1373937980.20441.8.camel@vanquo.pezone.net proposed an alternative
involving a dynamically-constructed string based on the actual locking
strength specified in the SQL command.  This patch implements that
suggestion.