net: delete DialOpt and DialOption; add struct Dialer

Per discussions on golang-nuts and golang-dev:
"Some concerns with DialOpt"
https://groups.google.com/d/msg/golang-nuts/Hfh9aqhXyUw/W3uYi8lOdKcJ
https://groups.google.com/d/msg/golang-dev/37omSQeWv4Y/KASGIfPpXh0J

R=golang-dev, google, r
CC=golang-dev
https://codereview.appspot.com/8274043