FormulaInstaller: construct new ARGV from an Options collection

The array of options that is passed to the spawned build process is a
combination of the current ARGV, options passed in by a dependent
formula, and an existing install receipt. The objects that are
interacting here each expect the resulting collection to have certain
properties, and the expectations are not consistent.

Clear up this confusing mess by only dealing with Options collections.
This keeps our representation of options uniform across the codebase.

We can remove BuildOptions dependency on HomebrewArgvExtension, which
allows us to pass any Array-like collection to Tab.create. The only
other site inside of FormulaInstaller that uses the array is the #exec
call, and there it is splatted and thus we can substitute our Options
collection there as well.
missing: ignore unused optional and recommended deps
uses: utilize modern dependency API
upgrade: offload dependency expansion to FormulaInstaller

Now that FormulaInstaller does dependency expansion the _right_ way,
avoid duplicating the logic in upgrade. Instead, offload it to the
installer, which will generate an exception in check_install_sanity that
we can safely ignore when formulae in the outdated list are upgraded as
part of the dependency tree of another outdated formula.
Replace usages of recursive_deps with recursive_dependencies
Add "depends_on :clt"
Tag Xcode and CLT requirements as build-time

This way they can be skipped when installing bottles.
Fix Dependencies -> Array conversion
Add TODO