diff: add a notify callback to `git_diff__from_iterators`

The callback will be called for each file, just before the `git_delta_t` gets inserted into the diff list.

When the callback:
- returns < 0, the diff process will be aborted
- returns > 0, the delta will not be inserted into the diff list, but the diff process continues
- returns 0, the delta is inserted into the diff list, and the diff process continues