added in notification modification and javadocs

-notification only happens if small chat window does not have focus
merge fixes a/t
Andrews merge stuff
changed the contact to the Global user contact me in task bar
changed title of window from blue text to Contact name
Work around for tabs with no history in them

- creates a notification that is not sent to the Contact so that that
tab can be deleted
Merge pull request #53 from jdmielke/master

Clean up/javadoc/notification checks for focus of smallchat window