mon: fix preforker exit behavior behavior

In 3c5706163b72245768958155d767abf561e6d96d we made exit() not actually
exit so that the leak checking would behave for a non-forking case.
That is only needed for the normal exit case; every other case expects
exit() to actually terminate and not continue execution.

Instead, make a signal_exit() method that signals the parent (if any)
and then lets you return.  exit() goes back to it's usual behavior,
fixing the many other calls in main().

Signed-off-by: Sage Weil <sage@inktank.com>